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Empty Chairs and New Chairs: My Thanksgiving Table of Plenty

“𝑪𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒗𝒆𝒏 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒉, 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒕𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒍𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒚. 𝑮𝒐𝒅 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒗𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒕𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒍𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒚” 𝑳𝒚𝒓𝒊𝒄𝒔 𝒃𝒚 𝑫𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒆𝒍 𝑺𝒄𝒉𝒖𝒕𝒕𝒆 This photo of my family was taken on Thanksgiving Day in 1971 when I was 16 years old and a junior at Paramus …

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𝐒𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐀𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬: 𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐋𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐁𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐒𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐎𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐎𝐧𝐞 𝐒𝐞𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐅𝐨𝐨𝐭𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐬?

𝖠𝗌 𝖺 𝖡𝖾𝗋𝖾𝖺𝗏𝖾𝗆𝖾𝗇𝗍 𝖢𝗈𝗎𝗇𝗌𝖾𝗅𝗈𝗋 𝖺𝗇𝖽 𝖢𝗈𝖺𝖼𝗁, 𝖨 𝗁𝖺𝗏𝖾 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗁𝗈𝗇𝗈𝗋 𝗈𝖿 𝗌𝗎𝗉𝗉𝗈𝗋𝗍𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝗂𝗇𝖽𝗂𝗏𝗂𝖽𝗎𝖺𝗅𝗌 𝗍𝗁𝗋𝗈𝗎𝗀𝗁 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗏𝖺𝗋𝗂𝗈𝗎𝗌 𝗌𝗍𝖺𝗀𝖾𝗌 𝖺𝗇𝖽 𝖾𝗆𝗈𝗍𝗂𝗈𝗇𝗌 𝗍𝗁𝖺𝗍 𝖺𝗋𝗂𝗌𝖾 𝖽𝗎𝗋𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝗍𝗂𝗆𝖾𝗌 𝗈𝖿 𝗆𝖺𝗃𝗈𝗋 𝖼𝗁𝖺𝗇𝗀𝖾. 𝖳𝗁𝗂𝗌 𝗆𝖺𝗒 𝗂𝗇𝖼𝗅𝗎𝖽𝖾 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗅𝗈𝗌𝗌 𝗈𝖿 𝖺 𝗅𝗈𝗏𝖾𝖽 𝗈𝗇𝖾, 𝖺 𝗃𝗈𝖻, 𝖺 𝗍𝗋𝗈𝗎𝖻𝗅𝖾𝖽 𝗋𝖾𝗅𝖺𝗍𝗂𝗈𝗇𝗌𝗁𝗂𝗉, 𝗈𝗋 𝖾𝗏𝖾𝗇 𝖺𝖽𝗃𝗎𝗌𝗍𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝗍𝗈 𝖺 𝗇𝖾𝗐 𝖾𝗇𝗏𝗂𝗋𝗈𝗇𝗆𝖾𝗇𝗍 𝗍𝗁𝖺𝗍 𝗆𝖺𝗋𝗄𝗌 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝖻𝖾𝗀𝗂𝗇𝗇𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝗈𝖿 𝖺 𝗇𝖾𝗐 𝖼𝗁𝖺𝗉𝗍𝖾𝗋 …

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𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐚 𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐒𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧: 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐈 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐋𝐞𝐭 𝐆𝐨 𝐎𝐟?

“𝑭𝒐𝒓 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒔𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒐𝒏, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒗𝒆𝒏 … 𝒂 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒌𝒆𝒆𝒑 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒘 𝒂𝒘𝒂𝒚” 𝑬𝒄𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒂𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒔 𝟯:(𝟭-𝟴) I had a great hike last week with Cali, one of our three Golden Retrievers, celebrating all the beauty of the new autumn season now upon us. And, as …

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Speak Lord, Your Servant is Listening

Some days you just have to say thank you Lord for all the blessings of nature He has bestowed to all of us. I often drive along Ocean Avenue here in Spring Lake, NJ on my way to Mass in the morning on purpose so I can peer out of my car window to take …

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Grieving Job Loss: You Can’t Heal What You Don’t Feel

“𝑯𝒐𝒏𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒑𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒕𝒘𝒆𝒆𝒏 𝒏𝒐 𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒓 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒚𝒆𝒕. 𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒑𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒐 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒈𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖, 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖’𝒗𝒆 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒅, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒅𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒆. 𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆, 𝒑𝒐𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒃𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒑𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒃𝒐𝒓𝒏.” 𝑵𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒚 𝑳𝒆𝒗𝒊𝒏, 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑮𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒆𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝑬𝒙𝒊𝒕 Job loss can often trigger a range of emotions …

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The Blessings of Our Cannonball Moments

“Therefore, keep watch, because you do not know on what day your Lord will come.” Matthew 24:42 My Cannonball Moment — Saturday Afternoon July 15, 2017 — Tightness in My Chest It seemed like any other hot July weekend at the Jersey Shore. It was 4pm and I had just finished cutting the lawn …

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Are You Running on Empty? Make Time for a Loyola Retreat

“Looking out at the road rushing under my wheels. Looking back at the years gone by like so many summer fields. ’65, I was 17 and running up 101. I don’t know where I’m running now, I’m just running on. Running on, running on empty. Running on, running blind. Running on, running into the sun …

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Grieving Job Loss: Denial and the Challenge to Our Self Identity

“Denial helps us to pace our feelings of grief. There is a grace in denial. It is nature’s way of letting in only as much as we can handle.” Elizabeth Kubler-Ross The U.S. labor market continues to defy expectations as job growth has remained quite strong with a national unemployment rate of 3.7% that continues …

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Reframing Old Scripts, Self Limiting Beliefs, and Behaviors

Did you ever face a moment at work or in your personal life where an issue comes up that triggers an automatic behavior by default usually taking the form of a deeply held self-limiting belief? For me, the old scripts usually take the form of “you’re not smart enough”, “not good enough” or when facing a project deadline, I hear myself saying “It’s not perfect yet and it needs to be perfect”. In this post, I share some of the tools and exercises we often utilize to help clients create the awareness for how their unique old scripts, stories, self-limiting beliefs, and behaviors may no longer serve their needs, creating a potential pathway for a new script to be written and one where the older stories and beliefs become less prominent. #executivecoaching #careercoaching #lifecoaching #spiritualcoaching #limitingbeliefs

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I Used to be Employed and Now I’m Not: Grieving Job Loss

“And I’m looking for space and to find out who I am, and I’m looking to know and understand. It’s a sweet, sweet dream. Sometimes I’m almost there. Sometimes I fly like an eagle and sometimes I’m deep in despair.” Lyrics from the song, Looking for Space, John Denver (1976) That Uncomfortable Space Between No …